Let me start with something slightly uncomfortable. You
already know what to do. Eat better. Wake up earlier. Call that person. Repair
that relationship. Break that habit. Start that thing. You know.
In fact, if knowledge were the problem, you would be
unstoppable by now. You’ve read the books and watched the videos. Listened to
the podcasts. Saved the tweets. Even sent some to your friends, like, “This is
deep.”
But here’s the strange part. When the moment comes to act, you
freeze. Or you delay. Or you negotiate with yourself like a seasoned
politician.
“Let me start next week.”
“Today has been hectic.”
“I need to be in the right mindset.”
And just like that, nothing changes. What exactly is going
on? This is not a discipline problem. No, no. This one is deeper.
1. Solomon Was Rich, Powerful and Still Confused (Just
Like You)
I want you to imagine Solomon. Not the Instagram version.
Not the “wisest man who ever lived” highlight reel. I mean the real situation.
Young. Inexperienced. Living in the shadow of a father who
was not just successful but legendary. David wasn’t just a king. He was that
guy. Warrior. Poet. Giant-killer. God’s favorite. Imagine that pressure alone.
Now imagine you are Solomon. You’re stepping into that role.
Behind the throne? A family full
of drama that would make Kenyan WhatsApp groups look peaceful. We’re talking
betrayal, murder, power struggles, and complicated relationships. And on top of
that, you are expected to lead a nation that is thriving yet fragile.
Now pause.
Remove the palace. Remove the gold. What are you left with? Pressure.
Expectation. Uncertainty. Identity confusion.
Sound familiar? Is that you?
Maybe you’re not ruling Israel,
but you’re ruling something: a business, a career, a family, or even your own
expectations. And like Solomon, you’re trying to figure it out without fully
knowing how. Now here’s where it gets interesting.
When God asks Solomon what he wants, he doesn’t ask for
money. Not even a small “just in case” amount. He doesn’t ask for peace. Not
even “just reduce the drama slightly.”
He asks for discernment. Wisdom. The ability to distinguish
between right and wrong. Which, if you think about it, is a very inconvenient
gift, because once you can see clearly, you lose the ability to pretend you
don’t know.
2. The Real Problem: You’re Not Confused—You’re Divided
Let’s bring this home. Most people say, “I don’t know what
to do.” That’s a lie. A polite, socially acceptable lie. But still a lie. Why?
Because when you sit quietly, you know. The issue isn’t confusion. It’s
conflict.
There are two versions of you:
Version 1:
The one with vision. Disciplined. Focused. Growth-oriented. The one who
says, “This year, we are changing things.”
Version 2:
The one who wants vibes. Comfort. A soft life. Minimal stress. The one who
says, “Relax, we’ll figure it out.”
And these two aren’t friends. They don’t collaborate. They
don’t compromise. They take turns.
Monday—Version 1 is in charge. Gym. Water. Journal. Life is
together.
Wednesday—Version 2 shows up. Snacks. Netflix. “We deserve
this.”
Friday? We don’t even talk about Friday.
And this cycle continues, not because you are weak, but
because you are undecided.
3. You Don’t Have a Discipline Problem. You Have a
Discernment Problem.
Let me say this slowly. You don’t struggle with discipline.
You struggle with clarity. Discipline is what you do after the decision is
clear. But if your mind is constantly negotiating, if every action feels like a
debate, if every choice feels like “Should I or should I not?”
Then discipline becomes exhausting. You’re not executing;
you’re arguing with yourself. And guess what? You’re very good at arguing. You
have data. You have excuses. You have emotional justifications. You can
convince yourself of anything.
And that’s the problem. Without discernment, you will always
choose what is easy in the moment over what is right in the long term. Solomon
understood this. He didn’t ask for strength. He asked for sight.
4. The Day I Ran Away from Growth (Yes, I Literally Did)
Let me confess something. The first time I walked into a
Toastmasters meeting, I mentally resigned. Immediately. I was 21, fresh from
campus, full of potential and ego, neatly packaged. I walked in and saw people
speaking confidently, articulating ideas and standing with presence.
Instead of thinking, “Wow, I want to learn this,” my brain
said, “These people are doing too much.” Let’s be honest. That’s how we protect
ourselves. When something exposes a gap in us, we don’t lean in. We criticize
it. We label it “Too much,” “Not authentic,” or “Not my style.”
But deep down?
It’s not rejection. It’s recognition. Envy isn’t hatred.
It’s a signal. It’s your soul whispering, “You could be this, but you’re not
yet.” Instead of accepting that, I ran. Not physically—but mentally. I chose
comfort over growth. For years, I convinced myself I was fine. Until life said,
“Let’s test that theory.”
5. Crisis Has a Way of Removing Your Excuses
Fast-forward. I hit 30. Quit my job. Started asking deeper
questions.
“What am I doing?”
“What do I actually want?”
“Why are people with everything still dissatisfied?”
Then life added more lessons: My
father passed away. My perspective on health changed. My marriage faced strain,
and suddenly, all the things I thought I understood didn’t hold.
That’s when I went back. Same Toastmasters environment. Same
structure. Different man. This time, I was not trying to impress anyone. I was
trying to understand myself. And that changed everything.
6. Identity: The Real Game You’re Not Playing
Here’s the part most people skip. Your habits don’t come
from your goals. They come from your identity. If you still see yourself as...
- “I’m
not disciplined.”
- “I
struggle with consistency.”
- “I’m
just not that type of person.”
Then your actions will always follow that script. You can
set goals. You can make plans. But your identity will override them. Every
time. Because behavior always aligns with self-image, not with intention.
7. Pain Is Not Your Enemy (Avoidance Is)
Let’s address another lie. “Life should be easier.” Says
who? Growth is uncomfortable. Let’s not romanticize it.
- Waking
up early? Pain.
- Exercising
consistently? Pain.
- Having
hard conversations? Pain.
- Facing
your own patterns? Deep pain.
But here’s the twist. That pain is not punishment. It’s
refinement. The problem is that we’ve become experts at avoiding it. We scroll
instead. We distract. We postpone. And every time you avoid discomfort, you
strengthen the version of you that stays stuck.
8. So, What Actually Changes?
Not motivation. Not hype. Not
another plan. Clarity. When you clearly see what matters, what aligns, and what
slowly destroys you, decision-making becomes simpler. Not easier. Simpler. And
once the decision is clear? Execution becomes natural.
Conclusion: The Real Question You Must Answer
Here’s where we land. Not in motivation. Not in inspiration.
But in truth. You already know what to do. The question is: Why are you not
doing it? And more importantly, which version of you is currently in charge?
CALL TO ACTION
Don’t rush past this. Sit with it. Ask yourself honestly:
- Where
am I choosing comfort over growth?
- Where
am I pretending not to know?
- What
am I avoiding that I know will change my life?
Then do one thing. Not ten. One. Because transformation is
not built on intensity. It is built on consistency.
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